There are two kinds of very different separation, breakup or divorce. The physical separation and the emotional separation.
The physical separation is just that. Once person has physically removed themselves from the relationship. Whether they have moved out, broken it off if never having been living together or starting a divorce or legal action if having been married or living together. The other is the emotional separation.This, in my opinion is the more dangerous of the two. Why?
Because people just plain don't move out or breakup with or file for divorce from people with whom they are happy and emotionally satisfied with. Period. Seriously. When have you ever heard someone say "I'm just so happy with Susan, I think we should get a divorce!" It doesn't happen and I think the key to stopping your separation or divorce and getting your ex back is to clearly differentiate that in your mind first. The person who left you has emotionally left you long ago and prior to any physical separation or divorce.
Most people in their hurt and anger try to stop the physical separation or divorce in order to win back their ex. Big mistake. Time and time again I have seen it with my friends in their relationships, and in the beginning, even with myself. Thinking if I could just stop them from going through with it, then I could get her back. It wasn't until I read Magic of Making Up and other books and resources like it that I started to realize the errors of my ways and thinking.
The more I tried to stop the physical separation, the more determined she became to go through with it. The more I argued, pleaded, pushed etc, the less she saw the good side of me. The caring, hard-working, good-intentioned side of this man.
When you criticize, you're trying to change something in your ex. When you judge your spouse you're trying to change them. When you disagree or argue, you're trying to change or improve them. When you try to pressure them with arguments about the family or children, you are trying to change them. It's these efforts to change them that caused the emotional separation in the first place which led to the separation, breakup or divorce. And that is the first problem you have to resolve in order to get your ex back in your life.
I know a lot of you believe much of what I have learned from The Magic of Making Up is counter-intuitive...and it is. And I have no proof other than the evidence of how it helped me to win back my love. So if you really want proof, Just look at your own situation. Is what you are doing working? Probably not or you wouldn't be here reading my blog. SO do this. Try stopping all efforts to change your ex. Stop the criticizing, the judgments, the reasoning, the arguing. Stop all of it and watch and see whether the relationship get better.
This won't happen overnight remember. There may have been years of emotional neglect to overcome. But stop all your efforts to change your ex and start to accept their decisions. Allow them to carry on with what they want. Agree with them and even help them to continue. Perhaps some call it reverse psychology or whatever you may wish to call it, but the truth is their negative emotions towards you will diminish. And when you sincerely start to side with them there is nothing for their negative emotions to feed on and they will start to slowly develop positive emotions towards you which will in turn help to end the emotional separation and ultimately the physical separation or divorce. Which is what you really want in order to get back with your ex.
Brad Allen is happily involved in a wonderful relationship which he is passionate about. He routinely looks to his previous training and life around him for lessons to apply to his relationships.
A self-proclaimed relationship advocate, Brad enjoys writing and articles to help those looking to renew or strengthen their relationships. His articles primarily try to help people to get back an ex. His blog is www.stopmyseparation.com
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